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[nonedible]

I have a question.  How do you know when someone is flirting with you?  I just do not understand flirting at all so I do not know how to recognize it.  Or how to even flirt.  It never really seemed like such an important thing.  But apparently it is?

I mean, for us sylvari we are blunt.  If we like someone we tell them.  We do not see a reason to beat around the bush, you could say.    But it seems to be a thing the other races do.

[Silence for a few moments, as if she's debating on adding anything else.]

We have some new arrivals again.  Hello!  I hope you can find a way to make this place feel like home.

Comments

[Permavoice]

[vaudevil]

Well, not at first, no. You see, there are many ways a person can flirt. It's learning those subtle social clues that will eventually help you along the way. For a woman, tucking her hair behind her ear to a man could mean that she is interested in him, or for a man, standing with his hands behind his back could mean that he's confident and he wants to show that he is.

It's all about learning the basics of body language. It takes a long time to learn them all and watching people is a good way to understand it.

[Permavoice]

[nonedible]

But I don't have any hair.

[There's another thoughtful hum.] I suppose I will need to start watching people more. Because I understand some body language. [Mostly the obvious stuff.]

[Permavoice]

[vaudevil]

Yes, I know, but that's not saying that you can't give a clue yourself. It was only an example.

Generally, people have done the same things over time, and some of those things have changed over time. It used to be that if a woman dropped her handkerchief and a man picked it up, it was a sign that he was interested in her, but that was a silly notion that was tossed aside as society changed.

[Permavoice]

[nonedible]

Oh! I've seen that back in Divinity's Reach. I thought she was just clumsy.

[Permavoice]

[vaudevil]

Ah, she was looking for a suitor. It's odd how a simple thing like that can be seen as something literally as her just being clumsy or careless when there was another purpose behind the action.

[nonedible]

[She's now trying to think of other instances she's seen.]

What about when a man places his coat over a puddle for a lady? Is that flirting too? [She'd always just assumed it as a silly thing when the woman could simply walk around. It also ruined a perfectly good coat.]

[vaudevil]

Well, there's a complication with that one. Yes, it's supposed to be a form of flirting but it ruins a perfectly good over coat and it's very outdated. It's also to be polite since dresses were often very expensive.

[nonedible]

I always cringe because that poor coat! And dresses are so very expensive! I've always wanted one of those pretty dresses I see the noble ladies wear but they cost far more coin than I ever make.

[vaudevil]

I think it's from all the material used to make the bustles, corsets and petticoats that make them appear more elaborate that cost the most. You see, men have it simple. Ladies always dress to impress. There is no other way to explain it.

[nonedible]

That makes sense.